Should I Tell My Friend to Lose Weight?


overweight friend Should I Tell My Friend to Lose Weight?If you noticed that your friend needs to lose weight, will you be brave enough to tell her? Will you be willing to risk your friendship for this? If you had a hard time answering these questions, then, you are officially on a dilemma. To tell, or not to tell—a question, only you can answer.

Losing Weight: For Vanity or For Health?

A point brought up by the chairman, and also the director of National Obesity Forum, Dr David Haslam may help you with your dilemma. Hopefully, after reading what he has to say, you can muster up the courage you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your friend.

To summarize his viewpoint, he basically stated that with the increasing cases of obesity in the world, politeness is a virtue we cannot afford to follow. With that said, you may have raised your eyebrows. After all, it is basically instructing people to use less tact. Before being turned-off by this, understand that he explains the necessary actions to address overweight and obesity issues is not a matter of vanity anymore, but more an issue of health.

Sometimes, all we need is slight motivation, a small nudge, and the feeling that we can do almost anything. As a friend, keep in mind that you have the best intentions. It may just be the nudge they’re looking for.

This Survey May Convince You

If the best intentions are not enough to make you pick up your phone and ask your friend for a meet up, then, perhaps, this survey may help.
In a survey done in the UK during the National Obesity Week, 3,000 women bared their souls and the results are as follows:

  • All 3,000 women who participated in the survey confided that they have 2 friends which they think are overweight.
  • Out of all these women, 1 out of 5 women or a total of 600 women are afraid to advice their friend to lose weight.
  • Out of the 600 women, who were afraid, only 150 were able to muster the courage to talk to their friend about losing weight.
  • Out of the 150 women, who talked to their friend, 18 women admitted that their friend was crushed and 15 women confided that their friends cried.
  • 1 in every 20 women who told their friends that they’re overweight, reported an end to the friendship. This means that out of the 150 women who took the risk, approximately, 7 of them, lost a friend.

This survey should give you hope. Not only does it show that you’re not alone and that there are other women in your position, but it also shows that you can definitely take the risk. After all, 1 in every 20? 7 out of 150? Come on! The odds are on your side!

Lose Weight – Break it to Your Friend Gently

Knowing that being overweight is a health risk and understanding that friends are there to help eachother, it is important to broach the subject. But, are you ready? Well—almost.

Ask yourself this–how can you be one of the 19 women in the survey who do not lose a friend? The answer should be easy enough. She is your friend, and you know her better than we do. If your friend already has low self-esteem, then, you may want to take it easy and break it to her subtly.  You can invite her to go to an exercise class with you. You can also whip up some healthy dish for her that you both can share.

Also, losing weight, weight loss or overweight, may just be some of the words you want to avoid. These words sound critical and may evoke a negative reaction. Good intentions, coupled with a whole lot of loving tact, can help you a long way. So, go ahead. Take a leap. Trust in your friendship and its capacity to withstand even the toughest times.

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diabetes equipment and supplies April 29, 2010 at 9:23 am

I don’t think I would have the courage to tell someone that they need to lose weight. Most people know that they should lose some pounds, but by pressuring them, it often has a reverse effect. Maybe hints on how you lost so much weight by doing some diet or excersize might be more helpful in encouraging them to do the same.

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